I read with dread the recent happenings involving the three children of Mohd Ridzuan and Indira. It's going to be a big issue unless all parties stay calm and use their heads rather than follow their emotions.
As a Muslim and a woman, all I can say right now is this - In all religions, we who worship God agree on many things. And among them is JUSTICE.
We don't really know the reason, why the children have been converted to Islam without the knowledge of their birth mother.
We don't really know the reason for the parents' separation.
Based on his syahadah, we trust that Mohd Ridzuan is now a Muslim brother.
as a human being with real feelings, what would you do if you were Indhira?
No mother wants her children to be taken from her by force.
No mother who is breastfeeding wants to be separated from her baby.
No mother should be denied her rights to see her own children.
Has justice been served here? Surely there is a better way of handling this issue than separating a baby from her mother by force?
While we debate on the issue of religion and who should have the right to bring up the children - as Muslims or as Hindus - let us not forget one important issue which is more important - Have the children been dealt with justly?
We may argue that the children are too young to make their own decisions but what do they really need at this hour? To know that they will soon be brought up as Hindus or Muslims, or to know that they are still being loved and cared about IN THE MOST HUMANITARIAN WAY POSSIBLE?
Children naturally don't really know about religion and God unless they are taught. And for years, they have been brought up as Hindus by their parents. Can you imagine their confusion when their parents separate, their youngest sibling missing from home, their mother in distress, their father missing, and suddenly amidst all these, they are told by their school that they are no longer Hindus but Muslims, they now have another name which they have to write and call themselves with, all without being given counselling beforehand about Islam or being told by their own now-Muslim father the reason he wanted to have them converted to Islam ?
Would you think that they, the children, will have a good impression of Islam now? Or even want to be a Muslim, with all the talks, public pressure, emotional distress and seeing their own mother sad because their year-old sister is still missing?
Would they grow up to be good practising Muslims, when they remain angry at being deprived of their mother's care during their formative years, especially the older children who are old enough to form their own opinions? (as Muslims, they'd won't be allowed to be brought up by their Hindu mother?)
Remember, these are not born-Muslim children.These children have been brought up as Hindus since birth. The only god they know are the Hindu gods. Is force and separation from their mother at this moment, the best way to bring them up to be Muslims?
While we as Muslims believe that the best way to bring up a child to be a Muslim is from childhood, remember that these are not ordinary Muslim children. They aren't born Muslims. They have no other family members who are Muslims except their father, who is still missing. They are the children of a Hindu mother and a Muslim revert father, who at this moment, has yet to show his face to the public or to give his own version of the story to the public. In my opinion, Mohd Ridzuan should come out from hiding, have no fear to show his face, clear his name, and convince the general public that he is capable of bringing up his children in the Islamic faith!
Allah swt has decided that the nation is to be tested with this case.
Yes, I know. Converting them to Islam (as a document) is necessary for the father who is now a Muslim, as it's his duty to bring up his children in the Islamic way, and ensuring their rights to inheritance.
Yet, there should be a better way of solving this problem. While the NGOs argue about the Cabinet's decision to award Indira with custody rights od the children, while others start a nationwide search for Mohd Ridzuan, while we hear and read from the mother and estranged wife, has anybody bothered to think about the welfare of these three young children?
While we argue in the name of religions, do we show any concern for the children in question?
Remember that hidayah belongs to Allah swt alone, and He alone will know which of our children would grow up to be good Muslims. All we can do as parents are to bring them up the best way we can, and to continue praying that our own children will grow up to be practising adult-Muslims and among the chosen ones to heaven? And we know that not all born as Muslims will die as Muslims and not all nonMuslims will die as kafir. In this case, do we pray to Him who is All Knowing and All Merciful to help the children find the right way home? OR are we too busy arguing the rights of the parents, the provisions under the law until we forget that we are actually dealing with the future of three young children, and the best way to bring them up to ensure that they would in future, insyaAllah live and die as good practising Muslims?
The father in question should be bold and come out from hiding. We should remember that everything that happens and will happen, is decided by Allah swt. Why fear when he is truthful and sincere in his wish to bring up his children as Muslims? Trust Allah swt for nothing can happen without His permission. Both parents should sit down and discuss the future of their children along with the mufti and relevant authorities, and the best way to bring them up before more emotional damage is done.
Let us all search deep into our hearts, and say aloud whether the children in this case have been treated fairly?
Let us search deep into our souls and pronounce that the actions taken (concerning the children) so far, are exactly what Rasulullah s.a.w would have done to the citizens of Medina?
Have the feelings and welfare of these children been taken into consideration?
Tell me, oh tell me, if you are one of these children, what would you feel and think of the whole mess?