Sometimes I bit more than I could chew, hehehe... and make some people scowl in return.
They'd think I'm being offensive/rude/unrespectable.
But then, if I dont voice out, who else would?
Most will take the safe path and remain silent.
Being a Muslimah is not an idle pastime.
It is a responsibility.
It is a fulltime job in which we will be paid for in hereafter.
So tell me, what would you do if:
1. You see photos of a bride putting on her makeup, with her hair exposed before she put on her bridal gown [she wears her hijab], in a social website, posted there by her photographer friend?
Would you admire the lovely photo or would you feel uneasy?
Would you keep quiet and say,"Ahh, not my business, I don't even know who she is" or
would you do something to help her protect her dignity?
2.You receive emails forwarded by nonMuslim friends and you open them.
There are jokes about Muslims/Islam in general which you find offensive and inaccurate like this one
and this. Would you quietly delete them and hope you won't receive them anymore? Or would you risk spoiling your good friendships with the senders by replying and stating your opinions about the offensive materials?
3. You are in a group of colleagues and they're complaining about your immediate boss. While everyone else is nodding their heads in agreement, you don't feel comfortable listening to their comments. Would you add oil to the fire or keep quiet? Or would you try to defend your boss and make everyone else angry? Or would you choose other options?
4. Malay and Chinese cultural differences may often cause people to misunderstand you and your actions. The Malay saying,'don't hurt the feelings of others' [jangan sampai mengguris hati orang lain] often make you hesitate to do what is religiously right and put aside cultural sentiments and biased views. Children are told not to offend their parents although the elders may be misguided and ignorant. Wives are expected to be demure and agreeable. Being quiet may be regarded as aloof and proud, being vocal as rude and confrontational. Not beginning a statement with "Sorry but.." is accused of being arrogant.
You feel stifled by so many cultural and community expectations but to maintain peace and harmony, yet to follow Muhammad's teachings, what would you do?
Anyway, in my opinion what matters most is that Allah swt looks upon you favourably.
We are accountable for our actions before God.
I am not perfect myself, but then I don't go around apologising for every word I utter for fear that I may offend someone unintentionally[heck, if you feel offended come tell it to my face and I'd respect you for that]. That's just not me.
I think well of others although I may not agree with everything they do, huhu.,
I don't say "I'm sorry" to every Ali, ABeng and Muthu [or to every Minah, AMei and Devi] when I have done nothing wrong , but I'd do that before Allah because that's in the Quran.
We can't please everyone but it is of utmost importance to please the Al Mighty.
And as a Muslim, we have to prove that what we do is accordance to the teachings of Islam and prophet Mohammad [pbuh] and not the other way around. Certainly not because everyone else in the community is doing it that way, for theirs may not be correct or accurate to the syariah.